EXERCISE nº20 - "What must I think about people when I am walking in the street?"

One of the symptoms of DPDR consists of looking invisible for the rest of the people.

When we are walking in the street we usually avoid to look at the rest of the people because WE DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO THINK ABOUT THEM, in fact, we are not sure about their existence. They mean nothing for us. Why this happens?

Since I don't know who I am and I am not able to remember clearly what have I done in my former life due to DPDR, it seems very difficult to guess in which way the rest will react when they see me. We lost our roots, our references, our own image. Our image depends on what the others think about us.

In order to remove that invisibility and recover our place again in the real world I should make this exercise:

EXERCISE 20 - "What must I think about people when walking in the street?"

Before facing the people in the street we should remember aspects that are unique to us

1st - How old am I?

2nd - What were my main achievements in life?

3rd - What were my most relevant hobbies/skills? I should overpass everybody in those skills and feel proud.

4rd - Pay attention to your physical aspect. Am I well dressed?, Do I look handsome today?

... etc

 

 

Any time you face people and don't know what to think about them, you should think:

• Could it be dangerous crossing his/her way? Should I be frightened?
• Is he/she physically neat, clean? or Should I feel disgusted?
• Is he/she a normal person or is he/she facing any disability?
• Is he/she going to ask me anything? Which could it be? Could I be robbed by him/her? could I be taken by surprise?
• Is he/she older than me, the same age or on the contrary I am older than he/she?
• If we are of the same age, Would I like to accept him/her in my own gang or group? I didn't like every classmate of my school. I had my reasons. Can I remember why?
• If I am older, I should know more than him/her and be superior somehow. I could teech him/her things and be compassionate with him. If I don't pay attention I could hurt him/her.
• If I am younger, that person probably knows more about life than me. I should show respect and learn from his/her.
• His/her level of studies... Are lower or higher than my own level? Would he/she overpass ME?
  I was very good playing or practising my hobby. Could he/she be better than me? Could he/she even know how to do it? Probably not If my skill is high.
• Am I stronger than that person?, Taller?, more corpulent? If we had to fight... could I win?; If I hit him/her, what would happen? (Considering physical contact helps a lot to overcome DP)I
• Is he/she more beautiful or attractive than me? Do I like him/her?....
• ...
   

Previosuly, when you were alright, you wondered those questions automatically, just within seconds. Now you cannot consider that info about people easily.

SO, YOU SHOULD BE MORE TRIVIAL AND CARE ABOUT APPEARANCES!

 

WITHOUT BEING SURE!

WITH NO LOGIC AT ALL!

ALL HEALTHY PERSON TAKE ALWAYS INTO ACCOUNT HIS/HER IMAGE AND COMPARES CONTINUOUSLY WITH OTHERS
 

 

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Video 02 - Exercise N2 "Consciously and individual approximation to objects""

Here you can find a video explaining how to do exercise N2 "Consciously and individual approximation to objects". You can do it during your daily "sensory walking".

You have to work:

• Maintaining your look on objects while you are walking in the street
• Feeling the distance between your body and walls, columns, cars, trees,...
• Reminding the first times you met that object in your time past when you were ok.
• Examining mindfully objects with your 5 senses
• Thinking about dangers and risks when you hit an object...

Better, have a look at the video on YouTube:

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Video 01 - An example of "Sensory Walking"

Hi!

I have just uploaded this video to show how a sensory walking could be done. It lasts only 8min as a sample of the walk. The entire walk should last half an hour more or less.
Any question, don't hesitate to contact me at

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EXERCISE nº1 - "Sensory Walking"

One of the most important habits to find the way toward your recovery is to be accustomed to go out of home to have a walk for just half an hour everyday.

Previous conditions:

1. Go alone. Just your mind and your body.
2. No worries. It is recommended walking at the end of the day, at late afternoon. Your only worry should be getting home to sleep.
3. Comfortable clothing.
4. Your unique purpose for walking should be your recovery. Without any errand or command.

Objective:

Get a space and a special moment for yourself, free of distractions and complex thoughts.
For this half an hour we might perform much more healthy exercises that I will describe in subsequent posts within this blog.

What must I do?:

Just crossing your door you should pay attention consciously at everything you do, see, hear, feel,... during your walk. Just as a kid would do.

Focus in not thinking about transcendent or abstract ideas such as challenges you must do tomorrow at work or at school. Or in your own problem of derealization.

Just pay attention to the movement of your body, your feet treading the cobbles of the pavement, walking on the sidewalk, looking at parked cars, trees, semaphores, the colors of the things,...

Try to enjoy your walk!