THE BOOK IN ENGLISH - A way of overcoming DPDR - Unreality Disorder

The date has come at last. Yesterday I have just published in Amazon the English Edition of my book, titled:

"A way of overcoming Depersonalization and Derealization"

Unreality Disorder

I hope it will help you to better understand the nature of this dissociation, as well as helping you to perform the exercises more comfortably.

Here you are the link to get the book:

https://amzn.to/2ItnklA

I hope everything can be understood ok, since English is not my native language. If you find any linguistic expression that is not correct, please tell me and I will correct it in the next edition.

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I published a book about DPD in Spanish - Two years later I am back

Hi all!,

What have I been doing so long? Just publishing the first book in Spanish language. Its title:

"Conoce y supera la Despersonalización y la Desrealización: Trastorno de irrealidad"

'Knowing and overcoming Despersonalization and Derealization: Unreality disorder", available on Amazon. Just search "Santos DPDR" and here it comes. 

I am working on its translation to English. I have just started. I hope it can be finished around March 2018.

The cover of the book is important: you can see, left side, rational mind blocked from getting access to the right hemisphere, the emotional side. I have represented a wall between them both. That weak connection is probably the reason of the disintegrated self and unreality sense.

 

Meanwhile, how are you?. Have you done the exercises I proposed? Many people is telling me they are improving thanks to them, so give them a chance!!. 

Now I am back in English, ready to give support again to DPD sufferers around the world.

Send me your story to:

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Video 06 - Exercise N1 Explained

Hi!!

Here you can find a new video in English explaining how to do the most important exercise of all: The number one: "Sensory Walking".

Don't hesitate to contact me

 for further info about my method!

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THINKING IN A RIGHT-HEMISPHERE WAY! - An small TIP to improve

Everyday we use our keyboard (PC, laptop, notebook,..) to navigate through the Internet, checking our inbox, meet friends on facebook, work with our spreadsheet, word or pdf document, etc...

So it is a very common situation. Watch this picture... What can you see?

 

The left hemisphere just notices that a toy is on the keyboard

EXERCISE: You must try to notice other aspects of your keyboard as your right-side mind would do:

1. The shape and colour of every key and the accumulated dust around them.
2. Watch you finger pressing every key. Press them very slowly. What do you feel?. Hear the sound hitting the keys. Is it similar to others you have used before?
3. Do you like the colours of the little plane?
4. Touch the plastic recovering the screen of the laptop.
5. Make a copy of the keyboard on a sheet of paper. As precise as you can draw it. Draw every detail. The letters and signs of each key must be place properly.
6. Play a little with the plane, landing on the keyboard. Do you like it? The screen could be a great barrier to pass over.
7. Use and watch your LEFT HAND!! (it is driven by your right hemisphere!!)
8. Type very slowly watching your fingers hitting the keys.
9. Notice your fingers moving from one side to the other of the keyboard to press the keys.
10. Summarizing: Feel your laptop as a physical object!

CAN YOU DO IT?

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MEMORY AND DEPERSONALIZATION - Why my memory is worse than before?

Who DPDRed person has not complained and thought: My memory is failing more than necessary?

Why is this happening?

Before being DPD we could remember easily everything and now we have many problems even to know where I left the car parked and where I left the house keys at home.

We SUFFER A GREAT INSECURITY.

A part of our consciousness, located in a part of the left brain (prefrontal cortex) seamless access to encyclopedic information, logical, rational type.

However now we can not easily access to the spatial-based, based  on personal examples and particular cases of our right side de the brain (strongly connected with our lymbic system, and therefore with our emotions and personality).

Those two memories usually works as a team in a normal person. Every "word" (allocated in left side) should evoke on us an image, an emotion, a past and personal experience with that word. Now we are lacking that connection and feeling weird.
 

EXAMPLE: What did you eat yesterday?

THE "LOGIC" ANSWER " from a DPDR person:
 

MENTAL PROCESS

Uffff. I don't remember. Does it matter? Why must I do that effort? Well, let's see...

Today ... What day is it? I will look at a calendar/watch/smartphone because I do not remember ... aha, it's Tuesday (It is the same for me. It means nothing)
So yesterday it had to be Monday (pure logic) What do I usually eat on Mondays ...? Vegetables (more logical again), but in fact I can not remember well, I CAN'T SEE IT FINE. 

ANSWER:

Yesterday I must have been taken vegetables, but I'm not sure . What does it matter what I ate yesterday ?, Who cares? 

WHAT A  NORMAL PERSON THINKS:

 

MENTAL PROCESS

Ok. I will remember it.
Today is Tuesday (usually already knows, does not have to look at it) and yesterday ... (he evokes the image from the dinner of yesterday seeing itself pricking the fork to eat ... "vegetables", and seeing what they ate and drank like a movie. He is able to rewind and fast forward what happened at dinner EFFORTLESS ...

 

ANSWER:

Yesterday I ate vegetables, 100 % SURE 

OTHER EXAMPLES DAILY "BAD" MEMORY:

• Do you remember 100% if you've locked the car, or the front door of your house ?, Are you sure ?, Do you usually go to check if you have closed them?
• When you go to a restaurant and choose the dishes you are eating. . Do you usually doubt what you have chosen ?, Do you find it difficult to remember it clearly?
• In a meeting, do you usually feel uncomfortable because you have been just introduced by someone and have not been able to retain its name? Face/Feeling - Name association is not good.

EVERYTHING COMES FROM THE FACT THAT OUR MEMORY IS SOMEWAY SPLITTED IN TWO INDEPENDENT PIECES. WE CAN NOT ACCESS TO THE NECESSARY VISUAL AND EMOTIONAL SUPPORT INFORMATION TO LINK IT WITH THE LOGIC INFO.

GOOD NEWS! :

YOU WILL RECOVERY YOUR GOOD MEMORY WHEN YOU REMOVE THE BLOCK AND THE CONNECTION BE REESTABLISHED.

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Video 05 - The nature of Depersonalization/Derealization - A new approach"

In this occasion I expose my new approach to understand the nature of DPDR. It a simple hypothesis based on my own process of recovery.

 

I hope you can understand my slow speech and realize why a dpdr person may suffer so many symptoms "out of the blue" when the last neural link between both hemispheres dissapears.

 

A normal thought and a normal perception of the world requires the contribution from both hemispheres. When the thinking and logical mind is disconnected from the "body" and "emotional" mind in order to protect ourselves, permanent DPDR may appear to stay. Simply the DPDR person maybe neurologically UNABLE to think normally again.

 

From my personal point of view, the unique and effective way to build again a neural connection (somehow) is doing some cognitive exercises to activate right-side functions as vision in 3D, working with colours, distances, habits, evoking a normal pattern of thought doing regression in time and trying to reestablish the normal emotional circuit. Meds may help to supply chemical substances that facilitates this neural bridge. Maybe limbic system, amygdala, hyppocampus, ... are involved in this disease. Since they are connected basically with the right hemisphere, a life grey, flat, logical and without emotions is the kind of life a DPDR person experiments.

 

I am not a psychologist nor a neurologist. Just a Telecom Engineer bringing a new approach to focus and treat this illness based on my personal insight suffering this disorder for more than 26 years.

 

Any professional of health here watching this video?, I am looking forward hearing from you. It is a great opportunity to help so many people around the world. I need your opinion.

 

 

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EXERCISE nº20 - "What must I think about people when I am walking in the street?"

One of the symptoms of DPDR consists of looking invisible for the rest of the people.

When we are walking in the street we usually avoid to look at the rest of the people because WE DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO THINK ABOUT THEM, in fact, we are not sure about their existence. They mean nothing for us. Why this happens?

Since I don't know who I am and I am not able to remember clearly what have I done in my former life due to DPDR, it seems very difficult to guess in which way the rest will react when they see me. We lost our roots, our references, our own image. Our image depends on what the others think about us.

In order to remove that invisibility and recover our place again in the real world I should make this exercise:

EXERCISE 20 - "What must I think about people when walking in the street?"

Before facing the people in the street we should remember aspects that are unique to us

1st - How old am I?

2nd - What were my main achievements in life?

3rd - What were my most relevant hobbies/skills? I should overpass everybody in those skills and feel proud.

4rd - Pay attention to your physical aspect. Am I well dressed?, Do I look handsome today?

... etc

 

 

Any time you face people and don't know what to think about them, you should think:

• Could it be dangerous crossing his/her way? Should I be frightened?
• Is he/she physically neat, clean? or Should I feel disgusted?
• Is he/she a normal person or is he/she facing any disability?
• Is he/she going to ask me anything? Which could it be? Could I be robbed by him/her? could I be taken by surprise?
• Is he/she older than me, the same age or on the contrary I am older than he/she?
• If we are of the same age, Would I like to accept him/her in my own gang or group? I didn't like every classmate of my school. I had my reasons. Can I remember why?
• If I am older, I should know more than him/her and be superior somehow. I could teech him/her things and be compassionate with him. If I don't pay attention I could hurt him/her.
• If I am younger, that person probably knows more about life than me. I should show respect and learn from his/her.
• His/her level of studies... Are lower or higher than my own level? Would he/she overpass ME?
  I was very good playing or practising my hobby. Could he/she be better than me? Could he/she even know how to do it? Probably not If my skill is high.
• Am I stronger than that person?, Taller?, more corpulent? If we had to fight... could I win?; If I hit him/her, what would happen? (Considering physical contact helps a lot to overcome DP)I
• Is he/she more beautiful or attractive than me? Do I like him/her?....
• ...
   

Previosuly, when you were alright, you wondered those questions automatically, just within seconds. Now you cannot consider that info about people easily.

SO, YOU SHOULD BE MORE TRIVIAL AND CARE ABOUT APPEARANCES!

 

WITHOUT BEING SURE!

WITH NO LOGIC AT ALL!

ALL HEALTHY PERSON TAKE ALWAYS INTO ACCOUNT HIS/HER IMAGE AND COMPARES CONTINUOUSLY WITH OTHERS
 

 

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Video 04 - "An Introduction to Depersonalization and Derealization" by Santos

Hi!

This is me, Santos. I am starting to record videos speaking in English for you to understand better the nature of DPDR and the way to make the exercises.

In this video I introduce myself and explains in my own English words symptoms, triggers and the main reasons to suffer DPDR. Remember that generalized anxiety produced DPDR which is a different disease by itself.

I'll do my best to express my ideas in a way you can understand. Thank you for your understanding :-)

 



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Video 03 - Doing exercise 4.2 - Synchronize your senses: Vision, Hearing and Touch

Hi! :-)

Let's practice Exercise N4.2. , we must re-synchronize our main senses: vision, hearing and touch. Our hands must interact with objects and pay attention to the sounds they produce.

PAY ATTENTION TO PHYSICAL THINGS!!

We can achieve the same effect by playing physically with toys or dolls.

Video 02 - Exercise N2 "Consciously and individual approximation to objects""

Here you can find a video explaining how to do exercise N2 "Consciously and individual approximation to objects". You can do it during your daily "sensory walking".

You have to work:

• Maintaining your look on objects while you are walking in the street
• Feeling the distance between your body and walls, columns, cars, trees,...
• Reminding the first times you met that object in your time past when you were ok.
• Examining mindfully objects with your 5 senses
• Thinking about dangers and risks when you hit an object...

Better, have a look at the video on YouTube:

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Video 01 - An example of "Sensory Walking"

Hi!

I have just uploaded this video to show how a sensory walking could be done. It lasts only 8min as a sample of the walk. The entire walk should last half an hour more or less.
Any question, don't hesitate to contact me at

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I have read all the exercises... What must I do now - I need support ! -

My dear trip companions:

Nothing would please me more than all of you could solve this complicated puzzle that has become your Self.

You have the challenge of recovering your personality being depersonalized. What a paradox!

But it is true, only you can get it, it is thinking different, in other terms, of space, of your habits by time of day and day of the week, of your body, of time , ...

 

The matter is being able to stop your thinking machine while you are doing these cognitive exercises. This thinking self is imprisoned within our left hemisphere, reminding our duties, our problems,our concerns, ...., everything that torments us daily.

You have to be consistent, strong and try to book a daily time for your recovery . Just half an hour a day.

I'm writing an entire book based on these notes blog, written somewhat hastily recalled as practical exercises that took place during my own recovery process.

No one deserves to go through this, I contacted and keep doing it with many people who need support in Canada, USA, Scandinavia, Latin America, Egypt, ... in short all over the world. This we suffer is global, we are not alone by any means.

People come to despair because healing does not come, because they tried every approach to be  ok, because rising every day so, because they see no light at the end of this great black hole, because it is very hard to live with a body that does not consider yours 100%, ...

Please lean on me to accompany you in this way. If you do not understand the exercises or if you need any advice email me.

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