EXERCISE nº20 - "What must I think about people when I am walking in the street?"

One of the symptoms of DPDR consists of looking invisible for the rest of the people.

When we are walking in the street we usually avoid to look at the rest of the people because WE DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO THINK ABOUT THEM, in fact, we are not sure about their existence. They mean nothing for us. Why this happens?

Since I don't know who I am and I am not able to remember clearly what have I done in my former life due to DPDR, it seems very difficult to guess in which way the rest will react when they see me. We lost our roots, our references, our own image. Our image depends on what the others think about us.

In order to remove that invisibility and recover our place again in the real world I should make this exercise:

EXERCISE 20 - "What must I think about people when walking in the street?"

Before facing the people in the street we should remember aspects that are unique to us

1st - How old am I?

2nd - What were my main achievements in life?

3rd - What were my most relevant hobbies/skills? I should overpass everybody in those skills and feel proud.

4rd - Pay attention to your physical aspect. Am I well dressed?, Do I look handsome today?

... etc

 

 

Any time you face people and don't know what to think about them, you should think:

• Could it be dangerous crossing his/her way? Should I be frightened?
• Is he/she physically neat, clean? or Should I feel disgusted?
• Is he/she a normal person or is he/she facing any disability?
• Is he/she going to ask me anything? Which could it be? Could I be robbed by him/her? could I be taken by surprise?
• Is he/she older than me, the same age or on the contrary I am older than he/she?
• If we are of the same age, Would I like to accept him/her in my own gang or group? I didn't like every classmate of my school. I had my reasons. Can I remember why?
• If I am older, I should know more than him/her and be superior somehow. I could teech him/her things and be compassionate with him. If I don't pay attention I could hurt him/her.
• If I am younger, that person probably knows more about life than me. I should show respect and learn from his/her.
• His/her level of studies... Are lower or higher than my own level? Would he/she overpass ME?
  I was very good playing or practising my hobby. Could he/she be better than me? Could he/she even know how to do it? Probably not If my skill is high.
• Am I stronger than that person?, Taller?, more corpulent? If we had to fight... could I win?; If I hit him/her, what would happen? (Considering physical contact helps a lot to overcome DP)I
• Is he/she more beautiful or attractive than me? Do I like him/her?....
• ...
   

Previosuly, when you were alright, you wondered those questions automatically, just within seconds. Now you cannot consider that info about people easily.

SO, YOU SHOULD BE MORE TRIVIAL AND CARE ABOUT APPEARANCES!

 

WITHOUT BEING SURE!

WITH NO LOGIC AT ALL!

ALL HEALTHY PERSON TAKE ALWAYS INTO ACCOUNT HIS/HER IMAGE AND COMPARES CONTINUOUSLY WITH OTHERS
 

 

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Video 04 - "An Introduction to Depersonalization and Derealization" by Santos

Hi!

This is me, Santos. I am starting to record videos speaking in English for you to understand better the nature of DPDR and the way to make the exercises.

In this video I introduce myself and explains in my own English words symptoms, triggers and the main reasons to suffer DPDR. Remember that generalized anxiety produced DPDR which is a different disease by itself.

I'll do my best to express my ideas in a way you can understand. Thank you for your understanding :-)

 



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Video 03 - Doing exercise 4.2 - Synchronize your senses: Vision, Hearing and Touch

Hi! :-)

Let's practice Exercise N4.2. , we must re-synchronize our main senses: vision, hearing and touch. Our hands must interact with objects and pay attention to the sounds they produce.

PAY ATTENTION TO PHYSICAL THINGS!!

We can achieve the same effect by playing physically with toys or dolls.

Video 02 - Exercise N2 "Consciously and individual approximation to objects""

Here you can find a video explaining how to do exercise N2 "Consciously and individual approximation to objects". You can do it during your daily "sensory walking".

You have to work:

• Maintaining your look on objects while you are walking in the street
• Feeling the distance between your body and walls, columns, cars, trees,...
• Reminding the first times you met that object in your time past when you were ok.
• Examining mindfully objects with your 5 senses
• Thinking about dangers and risks when you hit an object...

Better, have a look at the video on YouTube:

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Video 01 - An example of "Sensory Walking"

Hi!

I have just uploaded this video to show how a sensory walking could be done. It lasts only 8min as a sample of the walk. The entire walk should last half an hour more or less.
Any question, don't hesitate to contact me at

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SANTOS' SELF HEALING EXERCISES TO OVERCOME PERMANENT DP/DR

Here you are the complete list of exercises so far to remove this annoying dissociation called depersonalization/derealization.

You must be constant, making them alone and enjoying the process.

You can do exercise No1 for the first week, exercises Nº1 and 2 the second week, N1, 2 and 3 the third week, and so on...

Preferably doing them outdoor (in the street, in your village, field, beach, mountain, ...), although if the weather doesn't permit you then attempt INDOOR exercises.

Remember, just half an hour a day to do your best fighting against it. The rest of the day, WAS (Weird As Usual),and don't get obsess with the pace of the recovery. One day after several months, without noticing it, dpdr will disappear.

EXERCISE No.1 - "Sensory walking"

EXERCISE No.2 - "Consciously and individual approximation to objects"

EXERCISE No.3 - "Let's work with TIME"

EXERCISE No.4 - "Synchronization of your senses"
EXERCISE No.5 - "Using a Bridge Object" (INDOOR)
EXERCISE No. 6 - "Connecting every 10 minutes"
EXERCISE No. 7 - "An active seeing"
EXERCISE No. 8 - "Can anybody hear me?"
EXERCISE No.9 - "Visiting a shop"
EXERCISE No.10 - "Take your parents, brothers and sisters into account"
EXERCISE No.11 - "Improving while we are driving a car"
EXERCISE No.12 - "Comparing, comparing and comparing"
EXERCISE No.13 - "The story of my life" (INDOOR)
EXERCISE No.14 - "THE HOUSE OF MY CHILDHOOD" - My known paths (INDOOR)
EXERCISE No.15 - "PLAYING again with toys" (INDOOR)
EXERCISE No.16 - "Music as a bridge" (INDOOR)
EXERCISE No.17 - "Reading books?" (INDOOR)
EXERCISE No.18 - "Managing landscapes and open spaces"
EXERCISE No.19 - "Disengaging from 2D screens" (INDOOR)
EXERCISE No 20 - "What must I think about people when I am walking in the street"

I have read all the exercises... What must I do now - I need support ! -

My dear trip companions:

Nothing would please me more than all of you could solve this complicated puzzle that has become your Self.

You have the challenge of recovering your personality being depersonalized. What a paradox!

But it is true, only you can get it, it is thinking different, in other terms, of space, of your habits by time of day and day of the week, of your body, of time , ...

 

The matter is being able to stop your thinking machine while you are doing these cognitive exercises. This thinking self is imprisoned within our left hemisphere, reminding our duties, our problems,our concerns, ...., everything that torments us daily.

You have to be consistent, strong and try to book a daily time for your recovery . Just half an hour a day.

I'm writing an entire book based on these notes blog, written somewhat hastily recalled as practical exercises that took place during my own recovery process.

No one deserves to go through this, I contacted and keep doing it with many people who need support in Canada, USA, Scandinavia, Latin America, Egypt, ... in short all over the world. This we suffer is global, we are not alone by any means.

People come to despair because healing does not come, because they tried every approach to be  ok, because rising every day so, because they see no light at the end of this great black hole, because it is very hard to live with a body that does not consider yours 100%, ...

Please lean on me to accompany you in this way. If you do not understand the exercises or if you need any advice email me.

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