Showing posts with label dp/dr. Show all posts
Showing posts with label dp/dr. Show all posts

Wednesday, 4 February 2015

EXERCISE nº19 - "Disengaging from 2D screens"

The information technologies you are using in this moment may bring you good things and bad things:

Good things : the contribution of instant information among all members of the world, eg the blog, Facebook messenger, whatsapp, ...

Bad things: addiction, uncapability of disconnecting from the virtual world, abstraction and conscious avoidance of the real world

In our state, as a rule it is not appropriate to visualize 2D screens from ebooks / smartphones, tablets, PCs, TVs, etc...

Exercise nº19 - "Disengaging from 2D screens"
 

Have you ever heard about "phubbing"?
  • Do not use the smartphone / tablet when you're eating . You should pay attention to your surroundings, to the food you are taking, do not isolate yourself more from the real world. You should not read a newspaper or a book. It produces the same effect.
  • Do not use your smartphone or read anything on foot . Apart from the obvious risks (stumble, being robbed smartphone, ...) is not healthy nor naturally escaping from the real world stimuli in any case.
  • Do not use them in dates or meetings with peers and real friends.
  • Establish a time limit about using screens (i.e.: 2h maximum daily). It is addictive and you know it.

The best 3D and High Definition (HD) screen 

IT IS OBSERVING THE REAL WORLD

NO SCREEN CAN REPLACE IT!

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Monday, 2 February 2015

WHY DO I KNOW I AM RECOVERED?

  • Because now I enjoy open landscapes .
  • Because I'm going to shopping malls full with people and many different objects and I do not feel "overwhelmed" in these situations.
  • Because I distinguish between countless shades of different colors .
  • Because I hear all the sounds closest and relate them to others I've heard in the past.
  • Because going through the section of perfumes of a mall is a parade of exciting smells
  • Because I can while I am driving to be unfocused a little off the road and enjoy everything I see around, look at the drivers of other cars, ...
  • Because I utter words that show emotion naturally. Kiss and hug my children with total feeling of what I'm doing.
  • Because I can easily access what I did yesterday and the day before yesterday , or last week.
  • Because I am knowing what is falling in love again with my wife.
  • Because when I look at the clock I can see it as something natural and does not overflow me. The time of the day guides me .
  • Cause now I'm spontaneous and I can jump to touch the leaves of the trees or to kick a can to score a goal between two cars, I can phone a friend whenever I want,...
  • For so many reasons ...

NEVER GIVE UP SEARCHING A SOLUTION TO YOUR DP / DR!
Even if you're used to it
IT IS REALLY A DISEASE!
DON'T WASTE YOUR LIFE ANYMORE WITHIN THAT CELL
I know what you have to do

Monday, 26 January 2015

EXERCISE No18 - "Managing landscapes and open spaces"

Do the vision of a landscape confuse you?, and what do you think of the diffused light of cloudy days. Does it increase the numbness feeling and increases the typical "blurry" vision of derealization? (Rather than blurred, we should say imperfect or incomplete)

You ask yourselves... And what must I do with a landscape ?, What should I think about it ?, It really hard for me noticing something concrete, it's a little torture, right?

EXERCISE # 18 - "Landscapes and open spaces"

We reach the street and we found a landscape outdoors. What to do? 

Firstly to "understand and manage" the brightness of the sky and of the objects that we see is looking at the time it is (i.e. 13:40), noticing the height and position of the sun above the horizon and fight to remind us of what we were doing at this time when we were fine (months or years ago). It works for me wonderfully remember my school days when I was under a strict routine and schedules. For example, at 13:40 I know that I was out from school at 13:30 and had 10 'way down the avenue City of Barcelona. I know that at that time was a bit hungry and when I got home about 14:00 my mother would be preparing the meal. WE HAVE rediscover THE MEANING OF HOURS OF THE DAY.

Every time of the day should evoke memories and feelings from the past

 It is also important to think about what is/was the season of the year, I know this fact can evoke different sensations. The brightness depending on the hour and the season is quite different and characteristic. For example, in winter shadows are longer and the days much shorter than in summer. Our right hemisphere has been always capturing these nuances. Unable to access it, this kind of details are confusing for us.
Projecting our body: If we see a billboard, we must imagine for a moment that we are touching its metal holder, or that we are sitting on top of the poster. It also serves mental manipulation . Imagine we could catch it with your hands and take it to another site. For example: Resting it on the roof of a house.

 Do you know how we perceive the size of the things we see? 

We must project our body to the objects you can see in the landscape
    Comparing the object with our own height, with our body. Imagining that we start to scale it or embrace it. Cars parked, as we must mentally manipulate and take them as if they were toy cars. Our body has to participate in the real things! and OUR BODY IS THE MEASURE OF ALL THINGS!
      
    Has equal or even more therapeutic effect said than done.

      For any questions, you know, send me an email:-)
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Thursday, 22 January 2015

RECOVERY PHASES - From the DP / DR state to the normal state

The effects of doing the exercises of this blog can be shown in the following graph:

We distinguish three distinct phases in the recovery of DP / DR:

I) Initial state of consciousness depersonalized and derealized: . Over the years you learn to live with just the left hemisphere input, emotions are simulated, you learn to ignore and manage the annoying situations (avoiding crowds, view of landscapes and open spaces, and lots of other things ..) and can live without thinking much about it . BUT ALWAYS  BEEN AWARE THAT YOU ARE NOT WELL YET. Periodically the DP / DR will occupy our minds and we could try again a search to raise a solution, without finding it so far. When work, studies, demand our attention we will forget the issue and will continue living on our own.

II) Phase of conscious exercises: We can start with exercise No.1 ,1/2 hour every afternoon and consciously facing the objects and examining our moving body. We often will become frustrated and return home with apparently no improvement at all. But if you remain doing efforts based on (1) asking for the brain that perform functions that are only known by the right hemisphere and (2) remembering how you did when you were alright we will open a minimum neuronal path to the information stored there.

WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO IS PRECISELY THE ACTIVITIES THAT INCREASE THE DP/DR FEELING. WHEN WE ARE MORE CONSCIOUS THAT WE ARE IMPOTENT TO FULFILL THEM. SO THEY MAY INCREASE YOUR LEVEL OF ANXIETY. => That's why these exercises" can not be take us more than  1/2 hour at first, until we get to Phase III.

This phase is critical. It is when we will be tempted to give up. Again resignation. We still will be well, perhaps not yet feel almost emotions but notice that something is going well . We will be forcing the right hemisphere to work. " i.e. evoking images and objects from the past and retrieving memories associated with color shades we perceive " .
 
Don't GET OBSESSED WITH THE RECOVERY, IT IS A TIME TO RELAX, TO HAVE A WALK,... USING YOUR SENSES, TRYING TO DO THE EXERCISES AND HAVING FUN. YOU DON'T HAVE ANYTHING TO LOSE.
During this phase we will alternate outdoor exercises with others that can be done at home. This phase may be long, in my case from six months to a year.
III) Initial phase of normality
There will come a day when, by repeating the exercises, surprisingly, we can do them even outside the half an hour and with not too much difficulty. We will return to normalcy, improve our vision, our memory will be reinforced, time perception will return to normality, our memory, our tastes and preferences and the most important thing, we will be able to access the emotions . WE WILL BE A COMPLETE PERSON AGAIN AND FINALLY WE WILL BREATH AND FIND THE PEACE INSIDE. 

Wednesday, 21 January 2015

HOW IS YOUR THOUGHT NOW? - Basic stages towards permanent DP/DR

So ... What happened to us? How could it be possible? There are several known reasons:

1) Taking chemical substances as weed, LSD,...
2) Suffering a big trauma (car accident, death of a loving being, abuses, tortures, being kidnapped,...)
3) Long lasting anxiety.

In this post I focus on reason nº3, my own case.

Consider this drawing illustrating 3 simple steps within the path that leads to a DPDR stroke:

  1. NORMAL THOUGHT: Our conscience freely access both hemispheres in a more or less balanced way depending of personality. 
  2. UNBALANCED THOUGHT : Due to anxiety  , always coming to the point, for every matter,  denying our emotions for long periods of time, our consciousness began putting aside information that came from the right hemisphere .  Emotional info useless/conflicting for our logical target! At this stage we still have control. "We were ignoring real things and their details , we were passing from our body, ..., from anything not essential to solve our problem. "
  3. CIRCULAR THOUGHT: At some point the way was closed
    (Stunted by "non-use") to our consciousness for accessing to:
    • Our emotions (connected with amygdala)
    • Our personal history (located in the hippocampus) and emotions associated with it.
    • As "collateral" damage other functions are visibly affected as the 3D view and calculation of distances and sizes of objects, pattern recognition / face / body itself, the ability to perceive time, understanding art ...
On the contrary, our consciousness is limited to the "logic" information stored in the left hemisphere. That is our prison: infinite logical thoughts, philosophical way of life in a tireless manner. From this comes the dissociation, we feel we are spectators, we feel we have no control over our body, which moves automatically and is not controlled completely by us. 

The "we" is impotent (no way), locked, unable to find himself , we are a clump of logical thinking. Who can help us to enable that road again? We miss normalcy ... to be "average people". Our right brain still works, of course, BUT WE CANNOT control it, hence come all our symptoms.

THE EXERCISES IN THIS BLOG SERVES TO UNBLOCK THE WAY

LOGIC IS NOT THE SOLUTION!
YOU MUST RELIVING THE PAST TO FEEL THE WAY WE USE TO THINK!
THERE IS A LOT OF HARD WORK !, sometimes you will feel you are failing, but you will get it!!

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Tuesday, 20 January 2015

WHAT IS NORMAL THINKING? - Our goal doing the exercises

Have you ever wondered how normal people thinks? Can you remember the way you use to think prior to DP/DR?  I have developed a very simple graphical model for us to understand the stages through which passes a derealized person until  a complete healing.
In today's post we will learn how the two brain hemispheres alternate to participate in the thought of a healthy person complementing each other.

Balanced hemisphere workload = normality

Everyone has two hemispheres that  share the continuous workload of thinking:

  • Left Hemisphere : Specializing in words , reading & writing both oral and written, numerical symbols, mathematical concepts, sequential procedures, step by step, left h. is analytical and likes the precision. It is the hemisphere of the logic (cause and effect) and the practical side of things. It likes to generalize and create models. It is more introverted and apathetic.
  • Right Brain: Specializing in tasks that require creativity , innovation , taste for art , colors , concepts of space and time , able to appreciate the big picture of things, not be very accurate, it is dealt with linking what we feel with the EMOTIONS. He likes the particular cases and details of things in the real world . It's funny and outgoing. It's dumb, can not speak.
Logical left brain vs Emotional right brain


At the same time, the left hemisphere controls the right side of the body (including the right visual field) and the right h. controls our left side (including the left visual field).

As you can see from the chart , a normal person can not prevent that both hemispheres provide information when making a decision. Here appears the famous saying:

"Thinking with your head against thinking with your heart"


We are even aware when we asked for a logical judgment (cause and effect) and when asked for a emotional trial to our brain. The final decision will depend on what weighs more in our personality (more intuitive and sensitive people vs. more logical).

An ideally situation for an optimal mental health is that both hemispheres contribute roughly the same amount of information to our consciousness. Consciously our thinking comes and goes (access) the information saved in both hemispheres to perceive the world and make decisions, the right hemisphere can even access the emotional register which certain memories are impregnated with .

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Saturday, 17 January 2015

EXERCISE No17 - "Reading books?"

While we have DP/DR we should not read too many books unless it be imperative to maintain a normal life until full recovery (to be graduate, to keep our job, etc ...) and if we must do it, always following the recommendation about stopping at least every ten minutes to connect to everything around us, even with the book itself, with its cover, leaves, ...
And preferably real books, tangible , with sheets of paper, not electronic .
ebooks, unless they are "scanned originals" cannot evoke memories that interest us.

And why is not recommended while we are suffering DP/DR? Because although the content of a book may evoke real items, it cannot substitute real things that surround us. It is another way of escaping from OUR CURRENT REALITY. 

Our exercise is based on seeing the book as a real object , not as a content to be devoured in a linear and not stop way until it is finished.
 
EXERCISE º17 - "a different use of books as therapy"

At home there are two types of books. Those who were using or suffer BEFORE know of DP / DR and those acquired LATER.

There are YOUR'S and books that are not. The distinction is important because we want to recover OURSELF, OUR PERSONALITY.

Preferably you should use the books from BEFORE , since they will connect with the past, and if at the same time they are YOURS better.


  • View looking through the shelves these books are yours and prior to the dp/dr stroke. Focus first on them.
  • Take them, feel their weight , open their pages, touch the texture of their leaves and smell inside. Look carefully at the front page and back page.


  • Ask yourself the following questions with the book in your hands:

    • When did I buy it ?, Why did I buy it ?, Where did I buy it? I read in your entire day reading it ?, Where ?, What worried me at that moment?
    • Is it covered?, when did I put that cover ?, How did it arrive on this shelf ?, Has it always been here ?, Where was it when I was okay?
    • Who saw me reading it ?, family ?, friends ?, Classmates or work colleagues?
    • What would happen if I drop it to the floor ?, Would it make a great sound ?, ...
    • If it is a textbook, did you read every chapter ?
    • Have it got  notes from my own in the margins ?, Does it figure any date?
    • Think meanwhile you are touching it... I AM THE SAME "ME" THAT TOUCH IT TIME AGO, and do a carefully observation again.
    • Do not read it at this point!, just passed to another book and repeat the former steps.
    • That is, we must review the books superficially, having a look at their physical characteristics and memories that could evoke to us.

    • BUT NOT THE CONTENT ITSELF!!

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Tuesday, 13 January 2015

LEFT vs RIGHT - "Logic vs Emotions" - A funny short cartoon

If you wish to understand more about your brain, and your disease enjoy this video!!

Every human has the brain divided in two hemispheres:
  • The left one: responsible of logic, words, maths, consciousness, philosophical questions, abstract concepts, secuencial planning, ...
  • The right one: in charge of arts, 3dimensional vision, emotions, love, habits, time, physical things, faces / patterns recognition, big picture planning,...

 
WELL, IN OUR CASE THE BLUE GUY CAN NOT ACCESS TO THE RED ONE!!!
 
WE MUST CONNECT WITH HIM DESPERATELY, ACTIVELY AND WORK TOGETHER AS A TEAM AGAIN TO RECOVER NORMALCY
 

Monday, 12 January 2015

EXERCISE No16 - "Music as a bridge"

We all remember what kind of music we liked hearing before suffering our derealization. What singer or group album should be relevant or important for us  (although we cannot feel now).
 
EXERCISE nº16: "Music as a bridge"
 
Search within your memory the name of the disks or CDs you heard one years or months before suffering the DP / DR and find them on youtube.com to redisplay the cover and listen to their songs.
 


 
 
While doing so THINK YOU ARE THE SAME / THE SAME AS BEFORE.
 
  • Find out inside yourself and think what you were doing when you were listening it, what time of your life you were in (school, college, work, holidays, ...) and who were you related with at that time, if it was summer or winter, where did you hear it (in your room, in your car, on a mobile player while you gave a ride, ...)  

  • At the same time look at your hands or a "bridge object" to facilitate the exercise. Your hands are the same who manipulated your tape player, CD / DVD / iPod / Mp3 than before. YOU ARE THE SAME AND MUST FEEL THE SAME.


  • Which buttons did you have to press to hear the music ?, What colour were they?, Were them square, rounded? ...
¡ALL SUCH INFORMATION IS NO LOGIC - IS SPACE-TIME RELATED
VISUALIZE THE PLACE WHERE YOU USED TO LISTEN THE ALBUM
AND FEEL THERE AGAIN!
 
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Thursday, 8 January 2015

EXERCISE No15 - "PLAYING again with toys"

One of the activities that helped our brain to mature and grow healthy was PLAYING with TOYS. Playing with toys was very important in our childhood and we must practice  again if we wish to return to a normal state:


  1. Find a toy (little car, plane, doll, ...) from your childhood or a current one very similar to those which you had before. If you have children, you can borrow one from them or mounting a new one from an egg kinder that always contains small and manageable toys.
  2. Take it, look at it, feel its weight, its colors and looks MOVE IT WITH YOUR HAND as children usually play. If it is a doll , feel it on the couch, pick it up hair simulates moving ... If you are a little car as well, move it, park it, simulates going down the street on your desk, at home or at your office.
  3. Do not be ashamed of it, it is ABSOLUTELY necessary for communicate properly both brain hemispheres between each other and recover some of the lost sensitivity. It's part of your therapy to overcome this.
  4. When you are absorbed in your work or your studies, keep that toy close to you, look at it frequently, and play a little with him, and make the effort to FEEL the same as felt before when you played with him years ago.
Visit this link and check out why it is so necessary!
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Monday, 5 January 2015

TEN COMMANDMENTS to follow in 2015 to get rid of your DP/DR

Hi all DP/DR'ers

Here you are a basic list of commandments you should follow in 2015 to improve:

FOR THE DOOR OF YOUR FRIDGE!!
  1. I will devote just half an hour a day to my recovery process in solitude.
  2. I will avoid stressful situations. I'll try not being in a hurry anymore.
  3. I will often notice where my body parts are, my clothes and my position in space.
  4. I will stop of wondering philosophical questions and feel more with my senses.
  5. I won't focus long time in any mental/abstract activity, doing frequent reconnections with reality (place, body, things, time and emotions) seeing actively in 3D.
  6. I will go back in time (regression) to feel like the way I used to when I was OK.
  7. I will compare the place I fill with other similar places from my past.
  8. I will ask when were the first time in my life I saw that object, I was at that place, I heared that sound,...
  9. I will pay attention to the people surrounding me wondering what they are probably thinking of me.
  10. I will take my family's opinion into account to recover lost habits and references.
Happy New Year!! 

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Friday, 2 January 2015

EXERCISE No 14 - "THE HOUSE OF MY CHILDHOOD" - My known paths

One of the reasons to feel confused and disoriented when we go down the street with DP / DR is that we are not ​​comparing the path we are following NOW with the well known paths we followed when we were kids and we were living in our parents.
 
THOSE DAYS WE WERE OK!
GO BACK IN TIME TO FEEL HOW WAS LEAVING HOME!
 
All gradually learned to go to unknown sites. There was a first time we were allowed to throw the trash in the container , one time in which we were allowed to go to buy bread at a nearby store. Again we started going to school for a slightly longer route, we learned to go through many roads, streets, each one with its attractions and feelings.
We learned the time it took us to get to school and not being late. That distance and that time is one of our basic references, even NOW, no matter the years have passed.

Some days, our parents, grandparents, uncle, aunt,... took us by subway or bus to some unknown and further place. What a thrill ! We were providing all our attention! Do you remember?
Especially, the first time.
There was always a first time for everything!
In addition we were storing a time history of these possible routes to get to places. As well as potential hazards or good things from each of them. Right now, we don't have a good access to that memory. We must practice actively the access to it ...

EXERCISE No. 14: "THE HOUSE OF MY CHILDHOOD - My known paths"

Close your eyes for a moment while sitting on a sofa and imagine you are in the past, at your parents, eg 15 years old, more or less . Ask yourself these questions:

IT IS HARD, I KNOW, BUT YOU SHOULD!
  • What time is it now ?, What day is it ?, Week end or School day? ?, knowing that I am with my parents at home ... What could be doing right now ?, Should I be playing ?, Having a walk?, at school? ...
  • How long would I have to wait to get out for a walk? Did I need permission from my parents?
  • Down, where did I usually go?, What were my favorite ways?, What were my choices?, Going to see my friend who lived two blocks away?, Did we stay at some particular spot, maybe a mall? ...
  • Imagine it's time to go to school ... you went out, and where were you going? What direction did you usually take?

Tuesday, 30 December 2014

EXERCISE No13 - "The story of my life"

Today I propose a very useful exercise to fight against this monster called DEPERSONALIZATION.

EXERCISE nº13: - "The story of my life"


  1. Take a sheet of paper, standard size A4 or better the larger A3 (it depends of the number of years you have been suffering DP/DR)
  2. Place it horizontal, landscape (wider) and write from the upper left corner the previous year to the year you suffered the DP stroke. In my case, 1987.
  3. Below, at 2 cm aprox, write the next year, the year of your disorder, in my case, 1988, and so on until reaching the current year (2014 now). You can turn the sheet if necessary to the other side.

  4. At the upper side of the sheet and close to the right of the first year you will write place the labels corresponding to the twelve months, from JAN to DEC.
  5. Draw parallel lines, horizontals to separate clearly each year and verticals to separate months or quarters if you prefer.
  6. FILL THE STORY OF YOUR LIFE: Place in the calendar, approximately, when the most significant events of your life during those months, quarters, years: 
    • When you started a new job or project and when you finished it.
    • When you fell in love and when this relationship was over.
    • When you suffered your disconnection DP/DR
    • When and where you had your vacations (summer, winter, ...) 
    • When you passed your driving licence exam. 
    • When you finished your studies, university,... fill the courses. I mean, when you began 1º, 2º, 3º, etc...
    • When you passed that exam so important for you  
    • When you moved to a new house.
    • When you or your relatives suffered an important accident or trauma, relevant for your life.
    • When your kids be borned (if you have any), otherwise nephews.
    • Wedding dates you attended, even yours, jeje
    • Travels you made to especial places, and so on...
It would be better using colours and putting your age besides every year of the calendar. 


MAKE THIS EFFORT TO LOOK BACK ON YOUR PAST AND SOLVE THE PUZZLE!

WHEN
WHERE
WHAT WORRIED TO ME, SPECIALLY THE FIRST YEAR AND MONTHS BEFORE MY DP/DR STROKE

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Sunday, 28 December 2014

EXERCISE nº12 - "Comparing, comparing and comparing"

By now, we know that our DP / DR dissociation likely comes from a weak communication between two areas or brain functions, one related to our body, time and space and the other, related to words, our conciousness and abstract concepts.
Although both still perform their functions , our unpleasant feeling comes from the fact that our rational, logic mind does not have easy access to the other part and therefore can not control the space-time of our life time or adequately perceive the world around us. Even knowing that it doen't mean any sense, we distinguish two parts within us , we feel as spectators of our own body. That fact may cause a panic attack in some individuals.
For example: a normal mind without DP / DR, is able to stop their own logical thoughts for a moment and looking consciously in a special way (check nº7 exercise, active look) to any ordinary object controlling the following information "not logical" that comes from the "other side":
  • What time can be according to the intensity and angle of light I can see out the window?
  • How big is this room compared to the previous home?
  • How long has passed since I've seen, eg, my brother?
  • How long I have a glance to this book?
  • What do I want to do now?
  • What I'm doing is appropriate to ME, to MY  PERSONALITY?
  • What did I do yesterday ?, and last week ?, What would I do differently this week?
  • What am I planning to do tomorrow?
  • How long that I do not wear these shoes?
  • Do I want my wife or my husband, girlfriend / boyfriend ?, What will  I tell when I meet them?
  • Where have I seen this before ?, floor tiles are similar to ...?
  • etc ...
There are a few types of questions that can help us a lot to reconstruct the puzzle as answers NO LOGIC, NOT ABLE TO BE reasoned , the right answers are in the "other side". If we don't want to give a random answer, deny the question or avoid the situation, WE SHOULD ACCESS to that part of our brain we want to connect to.
Excellent exercise!
EXERCISE nº12 - Compare SPECIFIC objects!
Located in your living room, watch the main table . As it will not be the first table you've seen in your life, ask yourself the following questions:
  • When was the first time you saw this table?, Did you buy it?, Before was there another ?, Which one do you prefer?
  • How is it compared to the table in your room ?, Is it highest? made in wooden or metal ?, What color is one and the other ?, What is heavier ?, What is wider ? Stretch out your hands and feel its dimensions.
  • And your work desk or table where you study in school , college or university?
  • Stand in front of it and see how high is it compared to your legs?. Sit on each chair around the table and think where you'd be more comfortable to write with a pen?
Notice the layout of the room , where are the armchairs, where is it the TV?, where are the chairs , and the bookstores?

Do you like the current layout more than the old one? Where did you sit at this time?

COMPARE ALL YOU CAN SEE: places, objects, heights, widths, dimensions respect to LONG AGO WHEN YOU WERE RIGHT!

Wednesday, 24 December 2014

EXERCISE No. 11 - "Improving while we are driving a car"

A person with DP / DR can get the driver's license and driving perfectly. I attest that, because I did, and many other complex tasks.

In our state, the natural tendency is to focus on the road , driving, look ahead continuously. How to improve our DP / DR is based on the following exercises:

  1. Slow down, to one that is more comfortable to look at anything other than just the road. 90 km/h is fine. In addition we reduce stress and tension accumulated.
  2. Think about where you are now. ¿ How far are you from where you lived when you were okay ?, Far ?, Which way, which way would you go to your old house ?, How would you do to get there if you had to walk ?, Where do you reach a known point by which spent many times when you were okay?
  3. Have you ever been on other occasions on this place?, When ?, With who?
  4. Pay attention to the bridges crossing the road. Are they too high ?, How high ?, What would happen if you crash with the pillar of one of them? ... phew. Watch the vegetation, the median, the buildings surrounding the road.
  5. Notes other cars left and right of your lane, look at the color and model. Watch the occupant. Is it older than you ?, Could it be a classmate ?, Which could be his occupation ?, Do you like his/her car? IMAGINE IT IS A CAR or TRUCK TOY , seem which you played when you were a kid. Imagine you could hand it.



Of course, whenever you need to keep looking at the road to avoid an accident, but try YOUR EYES ACTIVELY FOCUS THE LANDSCAPES AND OTHER OBJECTS , both outside and inside the car.

Tuesday, 23 December 2014

HOW IS THE RECOVERY? - "What will I feel?"

In my case I have lived two types of recoveries:

  • The first was by itself, spontaneously, waking up the next morning ok, with great sense of relief. (That is, It lasted a few hours, like a drunk without drinking). Probably a warning.
  • The second time, recovery  NO occurred in the next morning, nor the other, or the beyond one.  The recovery occurred  very slowly , desperately slow , months, years, with the feeling that did not advance anything and I was going to stay like this forever, rare, dumb.
I imagine that many of you may be wondering the same thing!
What I noticed is that certain kinds of thoughts and actions made ​​me feel slightly something right . I had to keep trying by myself, by trial and error to determine what made ​​me well:
For example, getting up and walking around the room or across the room looking at my things, my old textbooks, .... Give a short walk every evening alone. Take a deck of cards, touch and remember the first time I played cards, remember the house in another town where I was in summer, remember what my mother or my brothers told me, etc ...

SOME SYMPTOMS THAT INDICATE WE ARE RECOVERING

  • Mild "pinpricks" , a signal that something perceptible happens in our head , not painful, indicating that we are recovering the neural circuit that connects logical mind with our "body" mind.  It's hard to explain, but it's as if I were to use an abandoned route, for years in my case, that connects emotions, personality (our personal history) and sensory perception . The exercises I propose in this blog, gradually make something move in our brain for good
  • Naturally, the colours i.e. of cars on the highway , they begin to have different distinct tones and greatest, they evoke us toys, objects of the past that had the same tone and even more BIG! ... whether we like it or not . We will be able to regain tastes really (not fake or reason that we like a tone or other)
  • Our way of looking will be different. More active, paying attention to the details of things and our body. We will see in 3D and every place else remind us of the past. WE BE ABLE TO COMPARE WITH OUR PREVIOUS LIFE.  And remember to compare you need a reference, the reference we had lost.
  • ...

IT IS WONDERFUL!
Come on, Don't give up!

Monday, 22 December 2014

EXERCISE NO. 10 - "Take your parents, brothers and sisters into account"

Did you know that one of the keys to get over our DP / DR is consider what others, especially close relatives, think of us ?
Everything we are, our personality, has been forged slowly through relationships with others , especially those most influential been able to provide: father, mother and brothers (I mean those who have educated us and the rest of the people have lived with us during our childhood and youth)



Our habits at home, the time when you eat, when they went to bed, which is done at home on Sundays, etc ... everything is governed by our relationship with them. In a house it is known naturally what is normal and what is not, what is right and what is wrong . There is a vital history and shared values ​​. Like it or not, they ARE OUR REFERENCE BASE.

Take them into account IS IMPORTANT!
 
 
EXERCISE #10: "Take people, specially your parents, brothers and sisters into account"

(This exercise can be done even if you are not in touch with your family. Just go back in time, rememberm and imagine you're still living there, at your parents')
Ask specific questions about the members of your family you grew up:
  • Would you like the work that I have or what I am studying?
  • Where is my brother now ?, When was the last time I saw him ?, And the last time I called him on the phone?
  • If my mother were here in my room or in my current house ... What would be her opinion about what she could see ?, And my father and my brothers?
  • What games did we play together?
  • Where were going at holidays ?, What did we do?, Where were we going ?, What was my favorite game at that time ?, What about them?
  • What music did you like?
  • What was the hobby of each  member of my family?, What  did they like?
  • How much money did they give you for spend a week ?, what did you spend for'... etc ...
This exercise primarily fights against depersonalization . If you notice something in your mind shudders when realizing these questions ... OK. EVERYTHING IS FINE! 

Sunday, 21 December 2014

EXERCISE No.9 - "Visiting a shop"

One of the reasons that led us to the DP / DR was being so concerned about an issue , so focused on something or so traumatized by an experience that our mind decided to protect and insulate us from the reality around our body.

Somehow, the logical mind is unplugged from those negative emotions motivated to do something, somehow, against our will.

Example: In my case, everyone will have his, my obsession was to study as much as possible to pass exams of my college career. Everywhere I went in my leisure time, vacation, ... my mind was to be concerned for the exams and NO was receiving 100% from my environment, we could say that I "sliding" around and could not find the peace until they find me studying. There was a continual contradiction between my body and my mind, which ended abruptly ending in an episode of derealization.
Can you live without paying attention to what surrounds our body?
Undoubtedly yes, it is precisely what makes someone just having a DP / DR. Your body goes on "autopilot" for life while you are worried about your topic. At first it can be controlled at will, after the "stroke", it becomes permanent.
EXERCISE # 9 - "Visiting a shop"
For example, when you go to a counter of a shop or a store to buy or order something and have to wait in a queue:

  • Look around to see if you are annoying somebody. Watch your feet and place well.
  • Compare your height with those of other people you have around. Are you higher or lower?
  • Compare your age roughly with them. Who are your age about?
  • Calculate how far is your body from the walls of the room, the door, the window, desk, ...
  • Look closely everything there on the counter, even things you are not intended to buy. The idea is to not only focus on what you need to do on the shop: what else do they sell?, what type of cash register / POS are, read the name of the clerk on his shirt.
  • Account , including you how many people are in the queue. Do you know in what order you go in row ?, ..
  • Do you feel hot or cold ?, Are you comfortable? ...
  • What's that smell ? Have you even smelt that scent?, where?
  • What sounds are in the trade ?, is there any radio on ?, the other people in the queue, are they talking or are they silent ?, why do not you talk to someone in the row?
IF YOU WANT TO RECOVER THE NORMALITY...
STOP AVOIDING THE SITUATION WITH YOUR SMARTPHONE, READING A NEWSPAPER, LISTENING MUSIC OR THINKING ABOUT WORRIES PAST OR FUTURE IN A PLACE DIFFERENT WHERE YOU ARE
In short, you must be alert to the real world , you should certainly focus your eyes to what is around you (Exercise 7: An Active Seeing) and make an effort to feel the pace of time.

You should be awake, AT PRESENT TIME!!